One of the craziest feelings I had when I got home from our wedding/honeymoon was that I felt like I had no identity. Out of all the emotions I thought I'd feel this was not one of them. After thinking about this more in depth it made sense. For almost two years I was "The Bride to be". That's a long time to be identified with something. I needed to get out of my post-wedding funk and decided it was time for a change! I needed a new identity. It was time to say goodbye to the "Bride" and hello to the "Newlywed".
The one major thing I could think to change was my hair. I have ALWAYS had long hair. I let it grow out for the wedding and it was probably the longest its ever been. It was all the way down to the middle of my back.
Not the best picture of me, but you can see how long it is here.
Two weeks after we got home I headed to see my hairdresser. After some wedding chit chat it was time to get down to business. I told her my plan and she was so excited to "change" me. She put my long hair into a low pony talk and said "Are you ready for this?" and she chopped off the pony tail. I looked in the mirror and saw that she was holding a pony tail with a good portion of my hair in it. I felt liberated! After the colors were added and the shaping was finished I looked in the mirror and saw this.
Not only did I love the hair cut and the blond highlights but I loved that it was a new me!
Post wedding blues are a real thing. I know many former brides who went through it. The reality of it is that anyone who spent a long time planning and identifying with one major event or period of their life, can find that they are feeling "lost" once it's all over. Cutting my hair was symbolic to me. I was saying good-bye to the hair that I took the time to grow for the wedding. For other people, it could be something else. I fully recommend finding what you need to change in order to feel better and do it!